While I do not wear a suit and tie when speaking in my “suit and tie” language, it’s really interesting how my brain just automatically knows when it’s time to make the switch and not think twice about it. I can find hard physical evidence of it in my phone while observing the way I communicate with friends and family versus how I communicate with my professors. When on the phone with my friends I don’t wear any sort of filter or feel the need to really sound “proper”. They can understand what I’m trying to communicate with them clearly, which is all that matters to me. Sometimes I wonder how my professors would react if I emailed them like, “ayo whatsup professor can I please have an extension on this thursday’s essay, I’ve got mad work to do”. (This is not how I speak). Obviously this isn’t very suit and tie in the slightest bit, I don’t follow many grammatical rules but it’s clear what I’m asking for. So what’s the big deal? But I don’t do this. I speak my suit and tie language when in the presence of teachers, strangers and other people of higher authority. 

I speak my “pajamas and uncombed hair” language around people I feel comfortable with. I put away all my filters and speak candidly. I don’t use a whole lot of slang words but one big indicator of my “pajamas and uncombed hair” language is through swear words. It’s a bad habit that I’m trying to kick. Something interesting about the way I use language to observe is that under no circumstance what’s so ever do I ever curse around my parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents. Perhaps I’m not as comfortable around them but something in my head does not allow me to swear around them. It feels weird and uncomfortable.